When Should a Child Quit an Activity?
Carolyn Means • September 5, 2016
What family doesn’t have discarded tutus, tap shoes, baseball gloves, cleats, swim team bags or violins in a closet? These are the leftovers of exposing children to activities that can enrich their young years. It starts with an investment in time and paraphernalia, and then comes the day they want to quit. The Wall Street Journal (August 25, 2016) carried an article by Nina Sovich with some helpful points for parents who worry that allowing children to quit an activity will have lasting, negative repercussions. Sovich says, “there are benefits to letting go, and they are best learned in childhood” when the stakes are low. Quitting allows a child to learn to make decisions. Sovich suggests children should spend at least six months at an activity or a season at a sport to decide if they like it. Parents need to be careful when choosing a child’s activities because their child may not have the natural talent for it. If children are exposed to many activities, they will usually find one they are passionate about by their teens. Remember my rule for activities: one after school per semester because the brain needs rest to learn all the content our schools are pushing.
Thursday, September 5 at 9:15 AM Westview School's First EDU of the School Year Are you finding it challenging to manage your child’s behaviors at home and in the community? Wondering where to focus your time and energy when it comes to behavior? Many students with autism benefit from explicit instruction in areas like self-help, social skills, and actively participating in the world around them. Behavior Strategies in the Home and Community with Sally Schwartzel, BCBA, M.Ed. , Westview’s Lower School Principal will be presented this Thursday at Westview School and also available on Zoom. With over 18+ years of experience working with individuals across the spectrum, Sally will discuss key skills to focus on at each stage of learning and offer best practices to help set your child up for success both at home and in the community. This event will be held in person in Largent Hall on The Westview School campus. Zoom attendance will be available by request. All attendees, both virtual and in-person, should register for the event. REGISTER HERE Any questions? Having an issue with the online registration form? Email Sarah Chauvin for assistance.
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